Minding teachers and programs often indicate what Jon Kabat Zain said to the nine -minded attitudes: non -decisive, patience, early mind, confidence, instability, acceptance, acceptance, go, thankful and generous.
Although incredibly useful, these attitudes never mean orders. Their purpose was as a reminder, the supporting of the mind -making and supporting the sympathetic life. But as soon as the workplace, apps and secular programs have been restored, the translation has lost something.
Instead of flexible guidance, nine behaviors of minds have become strict ideas for many. What starts as an invitation to live more mentally can eventually distort the practice, which causes confusion, passage and even harm.
Here is a strong truth: misunderstanding or over -using nine behaviors can cause real problems.
I have seen that it is itself. In the mind -making leader, we teach these attitudes in our MBSR and the Certified Workplace in the Minding Facilitator (CWMF) programs. And yet, there is a strong truth here: misunderstanding or more requesting more can cause real problems.
Toward a balanced request of nine behaviors of mind -making
When I first faced nine attitudes, they created a perfect feeling on the paper. But by living and guiding them, I was tied to the bales. Should I always be patient, even when it makes a difference? Should I never decide, even when a decision is necessary? What I meant to navigate life began to contrast.
This experiment helped form open MBSR, a framework that I have developed to re -concept the mind -making education for real life: practical, controversial, and free from Dagma. A key change is learning to keep the attitude of every mindset in the attitude of every mentality, not only to understand its intentions, but also to recognize its limits and natural competition.
Before I tell me how it looks, let’s take a close look at where these behaviors can go wrong, and how we can reach them differently.
When good intentions are not enough: to misinterpret nine behaviors
Non -decisive
- Intention: Witnessing ideas and experiences without labeling them good or bad.
- False use: Rejecting critical thinking; Accepting harmful behavior without healthy self -protection.
- Example: Repeated insults in a relationship under the guise of “not deciding”.
Patience
- Intention: Recognizing things opens in their own time.
- False use: Be patient for an endless wait.
- Example: Living in a poisonous job or relationship more than being healthy, believes “patience” will fix things.
The earliest mind
- Intention: Meeting every moment with open heart and curiosity.
- False use: Neglecting a hard -winning life experience.
- Example: In the name of “fresh perspective”, giving up valuable skills, making things more difficult than needed.
Confidence
- Intention: Trusting your intuitive and emotions.
- False use: Blind confidence in quick emotions without understanding.
- Example: Making a surprising life decisions because “it felt right”, which resulted in sorry.
Non -struggle
- Intention: To quit fixing on the results.
- False use: To abandon ambitions or directions altogether.
- Example: Ignoring education or career planning, misleading apathy for peace.
Acceptance
- Intention: Recognizing the truth as it is.
- False use: Resignation or passage.
- Example: Ignoring a serious health problem because “I should just accept it.”
Let
- Intention: Issue attachment.
- False use: Avoiding the necessary emotional work.
- Example: Instead of taking action, suppress anger.
Thanks
- Intention: Cultivation of complimentary.
- False use: Real anxiety.
- Example: Focusing more on “small happiness”, ignoring the great dissatisfaction of life.
Generosity
- Intention: Giving from the place of kindness.
- False use: Giving without limits, causes burning.
- Example: Unless personal health and stability are disturbed, always keep others first.
A new point of view: the balance of giants and opponents
In the Open MBSR, we use a dialectical approach, which once have two seemingly anti -views at the same time to find a balanced, practical balanced way.
It is clearly shown in the Taoist philosophy through the concept of Yin and Yang. Yen and Yang represent silence and activity, reception and initiative, opponents who do not cancel each other but help and rely on each other.
Minding works like this. Every attitude needs your counterpart to balance.
Practically how it looks like
- Non -decisive And Critical engagement
- Patience And Active transformation
- The earliest mind And Experience to take advantage of
- Confidence And Understanding
- Non -struggle And Round acquaintance
- Acceptance And Advocate of change
- Let And Emotional engagement
- Thanks And Acknowledging the challenges
- Generosity And Boundaries
When we keep these attitudes dialectically, mind -making becomes something that we can really live … not just what we perform in a meditation room.
What to do when education itself is a problem
When I first shared these observations, I had to face Pushback. One answer was stuck with me: The advice that these problems arise from people who do not just understand the concepts properly. If people just understood what these attitudes really meant, then there would be no misuse.
When a teaching is permanently misunderstood, when different background practitioners fall into the same forecast nets, it can be time to test how we teach the students instead of accusing them.
He bothered me. When a teaching is permanently misunderstood, when different background practitioners fall into the same forecast nets, it can be time to test how we teach the students instead of accusing them.
The patterns we have searched are not random. When the “non -judge” is interpreted as permanently abandoning critical thinking, when “acceptance” repeatedly becomes inactive resignation, and when the “giving” prediction turns into an emotional avoidance, these are systematic teaching issues, not a failure of individual understanding.
We are presenting these nine attitudes in isolated, which have been stripped of their original Buddhist context, which provided natural balance and guidance. When we remove these powerful ideas without equal framework, we create situations where practitioners are expected to move towards non -helpful extremes.
How do we think about nine behaviors and teach
It’s time to take ownership. Something is broken about how we are teaching these attitudes, and we have the opportunity to fix it.
That’s why I have written Open MBSR: Re -imagine the future of mentality. It’s not just about how we teach nine attitudes. It is about designing the entire system to be open, practical and for today’s world.
This is not normal for existing programs. This is a fundamental change. Abuse can damage nine behaviors, but dialectical thinking is added and they become really change, authentic and practical.
A version of this article was first published on March 5, 2024
