One Redditor Spills the Beans on Their Ex’s Infidelity

There is no easy thing about the elimination of romantic relationships, especially when cheating is involved. The grief you have lost, what your partner has done is angry at what you have done, feeling helpless at the whole situation, and what is after that.

Even you may feel the need to go back to your former works, or at least take some steps to protect your future partners from the same troubles you feel. An outward man approached Reddate to find out if he took things even after he arrived for information inside his former girlfriend’s new boyfriend.

Would you say okay to tell the new partner of the former that they are a cheat?

This is the question that you/purpose 4804 presented for popular Umm I revealed after a ** hole subdidate that when his former new boyfriend contacted him to find details of his breakup, he told him the unconventional truth.

A few months after leaving his girlfriend to his unfaithfulness and leaving no contact, the original poster (OP) received this message from blue: “Oh man, hope that it’s not weird, but I know you used to use your history, and I just wanted to ask that he is loyal to you?”

The OP writes that “no contempt” and “no bitter”, he just replied “he cheated me twice. You can believe what you want, but that’s what happened. Good luck.”

The next message he received was from the former, saying that it was an inappropriate thing for him, and he was trying to ruin his life, which eventually forced the OP to turn the reddate.

“Did I cross a line? I wasn’t trying to sabotage anything,” he writes. “He literally asked. I gave a quiet, honest answer, but apparently now I am a villain in his healing journey.”

What are we debts of a former?

The collective wisdom of the Internet can barely agree on anything, but the crowd mostly came here on the side of the OP, agreeing that it did not do anything wrong – especially since the new boyfriend asked him directly.

As a respondent said, “The truth is an absolute defense. You were asked a question, and you replied truthfully,” he added, adding that it looks like he is trying to claim hunting for a wrong.

Another agree, writing, “When people talk about their behavior, the fraudsters do not control the story.”

A former prolonged delay may be delayed after the relationship is over. So it is surprising that if it is joining Exactly What is right to do, especially if you are trying to move forward after disbelief.

“It is clear and healing to completely separate yourself from the situation after fraud,” says Ivy Koong, a LMFT physician and relationship expert. “If you stay in touch with texting, social media checking, communicating or even personally, you are emotionally confused. It can be trapped by you and if you can collect more data if you are optimistic, waiting, or more data permanently analyzed.”

When – and not when – in the butt

The fact is that the new boyfriend has reached, unfavorable, and directly asked the question that it becomes a relatively open and closed case. As another respondent said, “In my life, I have always told people that I have trash on it, I will not go out of my way to spread it, but if I ask directly about this situation, I will not lie.”

“You are not responsible for handling someone else’s relationship or protecting others from their choice,” says Koong. “Your intention may be protective, but trying to intervene can make you want to leave behind your freedom and mental peace.

Koong says that unless there are moral implications, such as another risk of potential abuse or severe damage, your own healing should be your priority.

“Instead of putting energy to exposing someone, you can choose to separate from them and their lives, invest in your care and live your life in a way that you have and your healing,” says Koong.

So, finally, it is better to focus on your healing journey after the breakup, and wash your hands for anything (even if they feel justice to call them). That said, when someone asks you a direct question about his former and will not interfere with your healing, you can definitely decide to answer the truth.