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The key path
- Taking money without alignment on values, trust, timing and working style often creates long-term friction that far outweighs the short-term relief.
- The best founder-investor partnerships are defined less and less by patience, clarity and maximization by speed or evaluation and how both parties behave when things get tough.
A professor once told me, “Not all money is good money.”
I understood that line intellectually, but I didn’t feel the weight of it until I started looking closely at the deals. At a firm I worked with, we did what I call “buddy deals.” These were checks written out of duress, access or favour. I did not understand anything in the terms. Alignment was non-existent. These deals created years of friction in exchange for a few months of aid.
Founders feel it too. You quickly close a round, celebrate the win and only realize later that you brought the wrong partner into the business. Misunderstandings of values, expectations and ways of working are more painful than capital.
In my experience, founders regret taking money when one of the four elements is missing.
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1. When you don’t share values or vision
No amount of capital can bridge the underlying philosophical divide. I split the partnership because the founder tried to build a stable, sustainable business, while the investor pushed for an early exit. Or the founder wanted to prioritize product quality while the investor only cared about margins.
I once lived this dynamic while evaluating an investment in a noodle company. The business had traction and even a Walmart deal. The founder had put in his savings. The economics seemed reasonable. But my colleague had worked with the founder before and raised concerns about how he handled the pressure. This uneasiness was enough to stop the deal. The founder was furious, but time has shown we made the right call. Vision and values were never aligned, and contracting would have been a long, difficult relationship.
2. When you give up too soon
Early in my career as a founder, I felt pressure to close rounds quickly. When the runway shrinks, and the tension rises, any check feels like a lifeline. This is usually when founders give up the most: heavy control rights, deep vulnerability or conditions that quietly lock them into future obstacles.
I often think of my father, who built a successful business without outside capital. Before every major decision, he asked one question: “Do we really need this money to get to the next level?” Many founders forget to ask this. Picking up at the wrong time, or for the wrong reason, often leads to regret. You can win rounds and lose flexibility.
Investors respect founders who raise with intention rather than desperation. They don’t expect perfection, but they do expect clarity about how capital translates into growth.
3. When trust is not genuine
Trust is built between rounds. I worry when the founders disappear after receiving the check. I feel the same concern as LP when I have to chase GP for basic updates. If things are calm, transparency is shaky, when things get tough it will collapse.
One of the clearest examples of confidence I’ve seen is in the beverage startups I invested in. The company ultimately didn’t make it—the market shifted in ways the team couldn’t keep up with. But the founder handled the entire journey with integrity. He communicated openly, shared difficult news directly and consistently honored his promises. I introduced him to other investors because he deserves continued support. Although the business didn’t survive, the relationship did.
Practically sounds like trust. Not a guarantee of success, but shared accountability.
4. When personality fits make collaboration difficult
Personality matters more than founders want to admit. Some communicate directly. Some want a long conversation. Some thrive on weekly updates. Some prefer quarterly reviews. Neither style is wrong, but mismatched expectations quickly create tension. If communication feels strained in the first day, it’s usually harder, not easier.
Additionally, if either of you is faking your persona to make the partnership work, you’re investing in a ticking time bomb. I once had a colleague who needed my outgoing personality to help raise money. He pretended to be someone he wasn’t and used my relationship to infiltrate his circle. You can pretend to be someone for the short term, but in the long run, your true nature comes out and if your personalities don’t mesh, his effort will blow.
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Questions to ask before saying yes
Here are the practical filters founders should use before accepting any checks:
1. Do we define success the same way?
Do they want rapid exit, slow growth or niche dominance? Here a dispute arises after a misunderstanding.
2. What will this capital do in the next 18 to 24 months?
Bind money to clear milestones, not vague expansion ideas.
3. How involved will this investor be?
Ask about communication cadence and expectations. Assumptions lead to frustration.
4. How do they behave when things go wrong?
Have them share a story about a portfolio miss. Listen for whether they speak respectfully or accusingly.
5. What does my network say about them?
Quiet reference checks are one of the strongest tools founders fail to use.
How to know if it’s actually a good match
A strong match feels stable. You can be honest without performing. You don’t feel pressured to pretend everything. You can only picture calling investors during a great quarter, not just during your best. Their risk appetite matches your stage. Their expectations feel realistic. You leave the conversation with clarity, not anxiety.
Good partners make you faster. The wrong partners make you defensive.
Choosing patience over speed
When capital is scarce and time feels tight, patience can feel unrealistic. But rash decisions often lead to long-term regrets. Not all money is good money. The right money, at the right time, with the right partner, can change your entire trajectory. Patience is how you find it.
The key path
- Taking money without alignment on values, trust, timing and working style often creates long-term friction that far outweighs the short-term relief.
- The best founder-investor partnerships are defined less and less by patience, clarity and maximization by speed or evaluation and how both parties behave when things get tough.
A professor once told me, “Not all money is good money.”
I understood that line intellectually, but I didn’t feel the weight of it until I started looking closely at the deals. At a firm I worked with, we did what I call “buddy deals.” These were checks written out of duress, access or favour. I did not understand anything in the terms. Alignment was non-existent. These deals created years of friction in exchange for a few months of aid.
